Socialization: Definition, Agents, and Examples of Socializing

Socialization. What’s so special about it and how important is it to spend time with different groups of people? In this article, we’ll be looking at the definition of socialization and some examples of it. We’ll also look at the agents and different types of socialization and why it’s important in child development. Lastly, because we’re a homeschooling website we’ll look at if homeschoolers are socialized. Let’s get started.

Socialization: The Definition, Agents, and Examples.
Some of the links in this post are affiliate links. This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive an affiliate commission at no extra cost to you. All opinions remain my own.

What is Socialization and Why is it Important?

Socialization is a process that occurs over a lifetime where we acquire inherited social norms, values, and behaviors from other individuals. We also pass on our social habits to others in society. This interaction determines how we fit into society and participate with it.

The purpose of socialization is to learn how to be a functioning member of society. That is, how to not make a faux pas at a party, how you know not to wear a bra if you’re a boy, or how to know to put on deodorant in a restaurant. We are training ourselves or others to know what to do in certain situations.


What is an Agent of Socialization?

An agent of socialization is any person or institution that shapes a person’s norms, values, or behaviors. Agents of socialization are the sources from which we learn (or are influenced by) socialization.

There are nine main agents of socialization. These are:

  • family – the main agent
  • peers – very important influences
  • school – breaks bonding with parents. Influence depends on the values the school and teachers hold. (i.e. Julian the Apostate wouldn’t let Christians teach as he knew teachers can change the minds of a generation).
  • mass media – the importance of its influence depends on what is read, watched, or listened to, and the frequency with which it is consumed
  • neighborhoods
  • religion – I find this one isn’t mentioned too much, but it is by far the most important in many people’s lives. I’ve seen people completely change the course of their life story overnight because they’ve heard about Jesus love for them. See Run, Baby, Run as an example.
  • daycare
  • sports and
  • the workplace.

There are others, but these are the greatest influences on people.


Advantages of Socialization

There are several benefits of socialization. These are:

  1. less loneliness which makes you feel better
  2. building constructive relationships (unless you have bad peer groups as found in many schools)
  3. improving the growth and development of a person
  4. occupying the mind and keeping it ticking so you can avoid things like dementia
  5. a reduction in stress and anxiety
  6. learning how other cultures (or groups) like to do things – understanding their perspectives and attributes
  7. getting emotional, physical and spiritual support – one reason Christians go to church


Types of Socialization

There are a few different types of socialization. These are:

  • primary
  • secondary
  • developmental
  • anticipatory
  • desocialization and
  • resocialization.

We’ll go through these separately below and give some examples.


Primary Socialization

Primary socialization is when a child learns values and behaviors that should be displayed so they can live accordingly to a certain culture. An example is when a child learns he/she should put on deodorant as that’s the norm in society.


What exactly is #socialization? Learn about the different types of socialization, agents and get examples of what this means.


Secondary Socialization

Secondary socialization is when a person learns the right behavior that is supposed to be displayed in a microcosm of individuals (or a small group) which is part of the larger society. A great example of this is when children in a grammar school believe it is ‘cool’ to study because they have a number of other good examples around them who study hard. Another example of this is when a child learns to put down other children in their peer group because that’s what his friends (the smaller microcosm of individuals) want him to do.


Developmental Socialization

Developmental socialization is when you deliberately focus on developing socialization skills which help you learn a process. An example of this is going to learn how to publicly speak at Toastmasters because you’re not a good public speaker or you get shy when you want to talk in public.


Anticipatory Socialization

Anticipatory socialization is when an individual rehearses for a future situation they are anticipating. They start acting out what it would be like to be in that situation. An example of this is when you do work experience to find out if you like a particular profession.



Desocialization is training to take away our past self-images which we learned (by socialization) previously. Interestingly, a good example of desocialization is the deschooling process whereby homeschoolers deinstitutionalize themselves from the mindset of school (see Ivan Illich quotes here for context).



Resocialization is learning new norms and values so you can fit into new situations with which you have not been familiar with in your past. When you marry, although you don’t like football, you learn to like it because your husband likes it. Soon you start learning all about your husband’s football team and you go to games with him.


The Process of Socialization

The process of socialization requires some steps. These steps are commonly called stages of socialization. The stages of socialization are:

  1. Investigation – whereby an individual sizes up a group and tries to see if it will be a good fit for him or her. The group does the same. The end of this stage is when the group invites the new person in and the person accepts.
  2. Socialization – the new member accepts the group’s culture, whether good or bad. They assimilate into the group and adopt their norms, values, and beliefs
  3. Maintenance – the new member and the group negotiate what the group expects of the new member (the way they should act, or another contribution). The individual can be thrown out if they don’t meet group expectations, or they can renegotiate and come back into the group.
  4. Resocialization – depending on the outcome of the maintenance stage, the member will be received back into the groups fold and learn to act accordingly, or they will be ejected and have to learn to live outside the group.
  5. and Remembrance – people who have left the group remember their memories in the group. They make sense of their exit and figure out their reasons for going.

The movie Mean Girls is a great example of socialization in schools taking place as the main character tries to fit into her new environment after being homeschooled for a time. See the clip below.


Social Skills

Social skills are any competency you learn that helps you interact and talk with other people where social rules and relationships are made and transmitted in different ways. To have these skills, you have to interact with other people and form a relationship with them. According to Wiki:

Social skills are the tools that enable people to communicate, learn, ask for help, get needs met in appropriate ways, get along with others, make friends, develop healthy relationships, protect themselves, and in general, be able to interact with the society harmoniously.[1] Social skills build essential character traits like trustworthiness, respectfulness, responsibility, fairness, caring, and citizenship. These traits help build an internal moral compass, allowing individuals to make good choices in thinking and behavior, resulting in social competence.

Social skills include:

  • persuasion
  • mentoring
  • stewardship
  • delegation
  • negotiation
  • coordination
  • active listening and
  • social perceptiveness.


Homeschool Socialization

Many people wonder if homeschoolers are socialized. Some think not. They might say that because home learners haven’t been put in school, they don’t know how to socialize.
This is, however, a misconception. Perhaps homeschoolers haven’t learned how to socialize like a schoolchild, but this doesn’t mean they haven’t learned social norms, values, behaviors, and skills that will help them in life.
Furthermore, this article, which is written from a sociologist’s perspective, shows one of the biggest agents of socialization is family. The family is a huge part of our lives and family teaches us many valuable social skills. For this reason, homeschoolers are just as socialized as schoolchildren.


Home education meme about socialization


Socialization is important in child development as it protects against anxiety, depression, and a host of other negative consequences. It is a powerful tool that can be used for good or evil. Socialization can be used for evil when carers or peers don’t love and care for those they’re influencing; it can be used for good when carers and peers care for those they influence. How will you use it?

Share your love
Default image
Rebecca Devitt
Most adults don't particularly want to relive their schooling experience on a daily basis. They would gladly move on to a new life devoid of homework and teachers. Very, very few adults will passionately blog about their schooling some 15 years after graduating. This makes Rebecca Devitt somewhat unique. As it happens, she was homeschooled. And she loved it. Still does. And she wishes every kid could get a taste of homeschooling at its very best. Her website How Do I Homeschool, is a springboard for parents to see what a life of homeschooling could be for both them & their children. When she's not blogging Rebecca is still homeschooling her-adult-self by learning Latin, growing weird vegetables and most importantly looking after her two children Luke & Penny. She has a husband Tristan and is a participant at Wollongong Baptist Church. She's also written a book about why parents should homeschool called 'Why on Earth Homeschool'.
Articles: 189
Ezoicreport this ad

Leave a Reply