What’s so dangerous about the negative peer pressure students in school exert on one another? Aren’t we training ‘resilience’ in our children when we ‘cut the apron strings’? Are we wise to leave children to themselves and then deal with consequences when they appear? Is there another way to do it? These peer pressure quotes are designed to get us examining the damage children can do to one another when not taught correctly.
Peer Pressure Quotes
A child’s friends in school will be highly influential in their child’s life. If children are displaying good characters, the peer pressure exerted will be positive; if their character is bad, the peer pressure exerted will be negative. The following quotes exhibit the truth of this statement:
Peers exert a massive influence over school children and are stronger than any other influence in school, including teachers. – Rebbecca Devitt, Why on Earth Homeschool
Today’s adults or parents think it is normal for children to be peer-oriented and often antagonistic toward their parents. [But], this is not natural, historical or good for children. – Neufeld, G and Maté, G. Hold on to your kids. (2005). 1st ed. New York: Ballantine Books.
Peers have the power to make each other supremely happy or utterly miserable. The latter is generally avoidable if children conform to the popular image at school. – Rebbecca Devitt
While many exceptions exist, generally parents are far more efficient at transmitting their values to their children than peers are at spreading their values to their peers. – Rebbecca Devitt
For millennia, always until recently, culture was handed down vertically from generation to generation. Now, however, children are generating their own culture and transmitting it … horizontally within the younger generation. – Neufeld, G and Maté, G. Hold on to your kids. (2005). 1st ed. New York: Ballantine Books.
Healthy peer relationships that build family units are rare in schools, even Christian schools – peer relationships characterize themselves more in pressure to try sex, drugs and alcohol. – Rebbecca Devitt
As a child’s trust in school peers increases, they simultaneously lose optimism, self-worth and respect for their parents. – Dr. Urie Bronfenbrenner summarized in Why on Earth Homeschool
Even though sex, drugs, and alcohol are prevalent in schools, we are so desensitized to the effects of peer pressure (having experienced it ourselves), we consciously expect our children to immerse themselves in poor school culture and emerge unscathed.- Rebbecca Devitt
Because many of us were raised in school institutions, we think peer influence is normal and safe (think of ‘resilience training’). It’s not. – Rebbecca Devitt
Peer orientation breeds bullies and their victims. – Neufeld, G and Maté, G. Hold on to your kids. (2005). 1st ed. New York: Ballantine Books.
Peer pressure affects children’s attitudes and behaviours profoundly. And, where toddlers attend preschool or daycare, peer dependency forms early. – Rebbecca Devitt, Why on Earth Homeschool
The peer group can replace a parent’s protection thanks to its sheer size. But, the group often expects a sacrifice for the protection they offer. The sacrifice to peers often means the loss of individuality and conformity to the group for peer approval. – Rebbecca Devitt
Peer groups often encourage less family intimacy and mock the child that makes the mistake of hugging their parent on the schoolyard. Siblings and parents are rarely a schoolchild’s best friends. Rather, classmates hold the privilege family should hold. So, peer camaraderie excludes family and destroys a family’s peace and accord. – Rebbecca Devitt, Why on Earth Homeschool
Many children feel pressured to enter a relationship earlier than they would have without pressure from peers. Some girls are pressured into having sex by boyfriends. Others who resist the pressure to sleep around risk continual bullying for their choices. – Rebbecca Devitt
The worst thing about peer pressure is its tendency to make fools of those who follow bad children in school. – Rebbecca Devitt
My fifteen-year-old brother goes to school [now]. He hates school because he feels like he has to keep up an image. The peer pressure is just enormous. You’ve got to be a tough guy. That’s the sort of image he puts up. Because he sees many kids getting picked on, like the slower or nerdier. He’s a nice kid, but he hates school because he feels like he’s got to put other kids down to survive. You know – a kind of defense mechanism – attack someone else before they attack you. – Jesse Rose quoted in Why on Earth Homeschool.
Homeschooling is a great escape for many children, allowing them to display their personal identity instead of having to mask it from their peers due to group identity demands. It’s a fantastic option to consider if you’re struggling with this issue in your home.
Peer Pressure Quotes from the Bible
These peer pressure verses from the Bible show amazing wisdom and knowledge, informing us about how to look at peer pressure in our society.
Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. – Proverbs 13:20 [Bible]
You shall not follow the masses in doing evil, nor shall you testify in a dispute so as to turn aside after a multitude in order to pervert justice; (Exodus 23:2)
My son, if sinners entice you, Do not consent. If they say, “Come with us, Let us lie in wait for blood, Let us ambush the innocent without cause; Let us swallow them alive like Sheol, Even whole, as those who go down to the pit; (Proverbs 1:10-11)
He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm. (Proverbs 13:20)
Wishing to satisfy the crowd, Pilate released Barabbas for them, and after having Jesus scourged, he handed Him over to be crucified. (Mark 15:15)
But they were insistent, with loud voices asking that He be crucified. And their voices began to prevail. And Pilate pronounced sentence that their demand be granted. (Luke 23:23-24)And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2)
Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; (Eph 5:11)
We should be providing our children with wise influences and companions. When they have foolish companions, the outcome is predicted in the Bible, and that is that children will become fools like the fools they walk with.
We hope you’ve found these quotes informative and enlightening. One of the reasons my parents decided to homeschool me was because they saw how much I was changing under the negative pressure of my peers in school. They saw our content and happy characters change into sad and angry ones. The change was so severe they ended up thinking homeschooling couldn’t possibly produce worse results than our Christian school had done. They were pleasantly surprised with the outcome of home education and noticed we soon reverted to our former selves under our parent’s guidance at home. I’d encourage you to look into homeschooling your own children for this and many more reasons outlined here.